Being Considered Nice: What does it matter?

You might say I had an epiphany recently while listening to a podcast with Dr. Aziz Gazipura discussing his most recent book:

His comment's on a person's desire to be a "people pleaser" are extremely thought provoking.  If someone is concerned about keeping up the status quo and never being assertive, this can lead to a repression of your feelings.  Which can lead to anxiety, depression, and many other things.

His take on being able to say "no" early without making excuses in a polite assertive way are very practical.  All too often I'll see myself becoming boxed into an excuse for turning down a request and feeling guilty for not being able to help that person with a work issue or a personal problem.  When in fact had I been assertive at the outset and simply stated my position in a polite manner I wouldn't have harbored any self doubt or guilt.

Saying "No" is not an easy thing to do.  For many people the default reflex is to say yes or find some passive aggressive way of not really having to say "No."  He offers encouragement to anyone who struggles with the affliction of constantly apologizing when you have done nothing wrong.  Learning how to stop saying "I'm sorry....."

While my comments don't even begin to scratch the surface of what all he has to offer, I can't emphasize enough how much practical insight he has to offer in this podcast.  As a sidebar, the Art of Manliness blog and platform is fantastic and they are constantly pushing out new content that is so rich in wisdom.  Click the link below to listen to the Podcast!

🎙  The Art of Manliness-How to Stop Being a Nice Guy