Being Considered Nice: What does it matter?

You might say I had an epiphany recently while listening to a podcast with Dr. Aziz Gazipura discussing his most recent book:

His comment's on a person's desire to be a "people pleaser" are extremely thought provoking.  If someone is concerned about keeping up the status quo and never being assertive, this can lead to a repression of your feelings.  Which can lead to anxiety, depression, and many other things.

His take on being able to say "no" early without making excuses in a polite assertive way are very practical.  All too often I'll see myself becoming boxed into an excuse for turning down a request and feeling guilty for not being able to help that person with a work issue or a personal problem.  When in fact had I been assertive at the outset and simply stated my position in a polite manner I wouldn't have harbored any self doubt or guilt.

Saying "No" is not an easy thing to do.  For many people the default reflex is to say yes or find some passive aggressive way of not really having to say "No."  He offers encouragement to anyone who struggles with the affliction of constantly apologizing when you have done nothing wrong.  Learning how to stop saying "I'm sorry....."

While my comments don't even begin to scratch the surface of what all he has to offer, I can't emphasize enough how much practical insight he has to offer in this podcast.  As a sidebar, the Art of Manliness blog and platform is fantastic and they are constantly pushing out new content that is so rich in wisdom.  Click the link below to listen to the Podcast!

🎙  The Art of Manliness-How to Stop Being a Nice Guy

Welcome Back?

So, the first question might be "Where did you go?"

You bet it is!

Well, this blog has been asleep for too long, and it's soul resides in the basic premise that Life is a Challenge.  A challenge worth fighting for and sharing with each other.  My brother and I used to laugh at the most simple conundrums in life.  You have to have a sense of wit and wisdom but also a curious mind like a child's to truly enjoy life. 

He would have wanted this amazing platform to help people, and that is what we'll do. 

This is about trying to answer some tough questions and serve up some real world insight that's actually worth a damn. 

Whatever issue you're dealing with might be "Rough as a Cob", but on this blog we'll try to figure it out together and make sense of it.

Rodney Stanger??

Mistakes on live TV News broadcasts are always funny and this video does not disappoint.

It appears they may have the wrong mugshot.

Katie Couric & Lil Wayne Interview

Katie Couric looks so natural interviewing Hip Hop stars. Especially when she asks Lil Wayne about his love for Hydrocodone Cough Syrup. I was uncomfortable just watching this interview.

Great Drunken Taser Video

I have seen a lot of drunk taser videos and I would have to say that this one if my favorite. This guy gets absolutely worked over by that cop and his taser gun. Click here to see more drunken taser videos.

The Dentist Drugged This Kid Up Good

This kid just left the dentist where he was drugged up pretty good. The video is making the rounds today and for good reason, he's hilarious.

Hotty Toddy and Why its not Worth a Damn in Cincinatti

Andy Kennedy's arrest video has finally been released and it was well worth the wait.

Presenting....Jimmy Gibberish

The following is a video of a very famous crackhead from the Athens, Georgia area. Jimmy Gibberish aka "Peanut Butter Rooter" has made many videos but this is one of my favorites. Enjoy!

Hits From The Bong

Michael Phelps says he regrets doing his impersonation of Brad Pitt in True Romance, and that it will never, ever happen again. Many of you may remember that following the 2004 Olympics he celebrated by getting busted for a DUI. This time while visiting a female at The University of South Carolina, Phelps decided to slam some beers and take some bong rips. In a foolish Near sighted move, Phelps allowed someone to take a picture of him hittin the bong. Not surprisingly, it didn't take long for that picture to make its way on the Internet. This latest incident might end up costing him around $100 million in endorsement deals!

Mom Laughs As Kid Almost Dies

Im Not Sure Why I think this Video Is So Funny, But It Is.

Friday Link Dump

Towel Rack + Car Battery= Murderous Prank
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The Longest, Most Awful Tramp Stamp Ever

College Dean Punched In The Face During Speech (Vid)

Fat Guy + Unitard= WTF? (Vid)

Sylvester Stallone Still Juicing (Pic)

Two Chicks Brawl At The Beach (Vid)

The Redneck Rope Swing! (Vid)

Virginity Auction Trend Goes Too Far

"Welcome! You are bidding on a 19 yr old quadriplegic girl for her VIRGINITY!!!I may not look much to you but you can did what ever fantasies you have on me! You will need to pay for a hotel with wheelchair access or make sure your house is accessible! Don't have to use condoms!Feel free to e-mail any questions! Bank Deposit accepted only! Enjoy! Thankyou! Good Luck!

Ok, we believe this was a hoax but REEAALLYY hope it wasnt. Unfortunately, the EBay Auction was removed but not before we could find out that the seller was also auctioning off Complete DVD sets of Charmed. One woman auctions off here virginity for more than $3 Million and now everyone wants in on the act. More than likely some young unscrupulous little entrepreneur was behind the whole thing and that poor young girl had no idea he was trying to take control of her destiny.

Larry Langford Montage

After looking through some old emails this morning, I realized that I had never actually posted the Langford Montage. I'm sure most of you have heard this before but for those of you who have not, enjoy! It gets better everytime I hear it. All you readers out there who are not from Alabama, Larry Langford is the Mayor of Birmingham.

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Getting Out Of Jury Duty The Hard Way

Trying to beat a Robbery charge in a court of law is a difficult thing to do. When you smear shit (Yes, I mean feces) on the face of your attorney and then proceed to throw more shit at the jurors, it makes the case that much harder to beat.

A mistrial was declared Monday when a home-invasion robbery suspect smeared human feces on his attorney’s face then threw more at the jury.
Weusi McGowan, 37, was upset because San Diego Superior Court Judge Jeffrey Fraser refused to remove Deputy Alternate Public Defender Jeffrey Martin from the case, prosecutor Christopher Lawson said.
At the mid-morning break, McGowan produced a plastic baggie filled with fecal matter and spread it on Martin’s hair and face, then flung the excrement toward the jury box, hitting the briefcase of juror No. 9 but missing the juror himself.
“That juror didn’t even see it coming,” Lawson said.
The prosecutor said the defendant was compliant after the outburst and was taken into custody without further incident.
After lunch, Fraser dismissed the jury, telling them McGowan would have to get a new lawyer and that his trial would be delayed.

There's no better way to win a jury over than to throw feces in their faces!

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If only Kosmo Kramer Were Still Around

Think of Kramer now, his mind running wild on all the potential for the "Bro" or also affectionately know as the "Manzier". Today's modern man needs a support system, and evidently the time has come in Britain.
Check it out: "Man Boobs"

What Clinton Fails to Mention

You have to see this video to appreciate what Bush says, but more importantly Clinton got away with plenty. The list is long, but a heavy set brunette with a blue dress and some special "treats" come to mind first.

Down Syndrome Reporting....MTV's Newest Show

How's Your News is a group of special people (LD/Short Bus) who've been doing Web shorts for a while but now they're getting a chance on the big stage. MTV is giving them a show filled with interviews like the one below with John McCain while he was on the Presidential Trail.
“The show fits the MTV brand because it really feels like it belongs on our network, because you can’t imagine it anywhere else. It has a rebelliousness in terms of attitude, it feels fresh, it feels inventive, and it’s really about a group of people working together to live their dream and have fun along the way,” said Tony DiSanto, executive vice president of series development and programming at MTV.
MTV better be careful with this one.

Totally Straight Ted Haggard Is Back

For those of you who don't remember Ted Haggard, he is the founder and former pastor of the New Life Church in Colorado Springs, Colorado; a founder of the Association of Life-Giving Churches; and was leader of the National Association of Evangelicals (NAE) from 2003 until November 2006. Haggard is probably better known for his meth-fueled gay prostitute romp in 2006. After this was made public, Haggard attended three weeks of intensive counseling, overseen by four ministers. Following the counseling, He was declared totally straight in 2007. And, um, again, for some reason, in 2008.
Evidently Haggard has been slipping as of late, telling AP this year his sexuality had some "gray areas." This is perfect timing for Alexandra Pelosi's new Documentary "The Trials of Ted Haggard" which premieres Thursday night on HBO. Check out the Trailer for the documentary.

Dont Let The Door Hit You In The Ass On The Way Out

After 11 long years, Mark Gottfried is out as Alabama's Head Basketball Coach. Gottfried was fired today after a long meeting with Athletic Director Mal Moore. Gottfried leaves under a cloud of rumors about his on and off the court behavior. So Long Mark...

Somebody That Will Store Your Stuff

Do yourself a favor and Let Toby Jones store your stuff. If that doesnt interest you, remember he has plenty of "Big Ass Trucks" to rent.